We who with songs beguile your pilgrimage / And swear that Beauty lives though lilies die, / We Poets of the proud old lineage / Who sing to find your hearts, we know not why ... (James Elroy Flecker)

14.7.20

On Matters of Equality

On Matters of Equality

‘Oranges,’ she said, 'are superior to apples, far more intelligently evolved. I know; I’ve lived where oranges grow.’

Surely I must have misunderstood her.

‘How can you say that? They’re just different.’

‘Oh,’ she said, ‘I meant how apples are so tasteless, so lacking nutrition ... so nothing’ — her voice carelessly contemptuous.  ‘Oranges are bright, juicy, tangy, strong in Vitamin C. They have a bite. I love them for it.’ (Taking my agreement for granted.)

I was speechless. I mean, I grew up with apples.

I sent an email, a list of links. Let objective facts clarify what I'd been too struck dumb to articulate over the phone. ‘These,' I said, 'are apples which are tasty and nutritionally rich’ – referring her to specific examples of each; adding, ‘Despite apparent differences, fruit is fruit’; elaborating on that. I thought if I explained logically, she must see.

I thought she’d have a bit of a laugh at herself, like, ‘Goodness, silly me!’ And I’d laugh gently with her — because, after all, she couldn't possibly have meant....

Days passed. No response. I realised she must be feeling insulted, hurt.

Meanwhile it was necessary for her to reply to something in an earlier message. She did, saying the right, expected words for that topic. She closed without love or kisses — instead, the farewell she always uses after physical meetings: 'Go well'. So I understood she was saying goodbye. She’d know I wouldn't miss it.

‘Bugger that,' I thought. 'You don’t get rid of me that easily'. It was her birthday a few days later. I sent good wishes, and gratitude for all the good qualities of her birth sign, of which I’ve been on the receiving end these many years.

If her silence was only embarrassment over her remarks, she'd surely answer.

Nothing.

Well, I had to try. Such a long, dear friendship. And never any cause, before, to think she despised apples.

I might have let it slide, it being her. But, just one day before that conversation, I'd made a vow: always to speak up in defence of equality whenever occasion arose. The Universe tests us, when we make a commitment! 

And no, I’m not really speaking of apples and oranges.



I'm always glad and grateful to receive comments on my work, including this, only I don't feel able to respond to anything you may care to say on this (sadly non-fictional) piece.

Shared with Writers' Pantry #30 at Poets and Storytellers United.



20 comments:

  1. Sadly, it's not too difficult to picture the actual words said and things compared. Usually when you let types like that talk, they reveal quite clearly who they are. And no amount of logic can touch that cancer they nurture inside themselves.

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  2. In defence of equality - absolutely! And totally agree with Rommy's comment too... true here as well...

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  3. A superb allegory, Rosemary, which spells it out beautifully. A

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  4. Such a well-written analogy. Hope a lot more people read it and realize 'fruit is fruit'

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  5. Very fresh write, Rosemary and clever the last line too - the whole thing made me smile this Sunday - thank you...

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  6. I think we must accept that all people do not see this that or the other fruit or whatever in the same way we do ourselves as different things can please or bring frowns to our faces. Mind you I do agree apples are best!

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  7. Grapefruit. Everyone knows. Grapefruit.

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  8. Love this parable story for this day and age!

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  9. Watch your words is the lesson i will take from this tale. My opinion though is fruit is not fruit but rather Every fruit has its place in the schema of larger life

    Happy Sunday Rosemary

    Much💖love

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  10. Usually, if I say to the person well, we're comparing apples and oranges, that takes care of it--if they can see the logic of that! (Not everyone listens to logic.)

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  11. I love this! In spite of her deference to the queenly apple, I smiled at her obstinate stance. I will take an apple over an orange that ends up all over me any day. Cheers. Go well.

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  12. I'm sorry for the pain you must be feeling. And, yet, the strength you put in the ending--that our commitments are tested and are (as I read it) worth it, shores up the weak places and wobbles I've been feeling lately. :)

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  13. When I was a child, Santa used to bring sacks of treats for all the children in our little church after our Christmas recitation program. They always included a rosy red apple, a juicy orange, some Christmas hard candies and a couple of chocolate drops. In my child's mind they each were very necessary to the treat, and each contributed equally to the wondrous entirety. Your story touched my heart.....and I am grateful for the lessons of the Christmas treats..................

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  14. apples and oranges are both fruits and each have their own positives as well as negatives. but each are tasty! great write!

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  15. I am sorry, sadden, and as you may suspect, frustrated by this individual's attitude. I don't understand people who can't see the world as it is or the fact that all people... I mean, apples and oranges are differently valuable and needed. I've seen this so much, but it never stops chocking me. This bit illustrates exactly what I believe Czeslaw Milosz meant when wrote about being "embarrassed by the clearness of the view.

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  16. Thank you for sharing, Rosemary.

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  17. This really warmed my heart, Rosemary! Its a pleasure seeing oranges rooting for apples. As for your former friend; it proves that where there is no heart, or no love...it quickly becomes exposed after close scrutiny. Her disdain towards you for being an 'apple lover' says it all. What a sad state of being to be without love for humanity.

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  18. What about fruit salad? Together the flavors complement each other and work together instead of competing.
    I am sorry about your friend. Closed minds may someday become open.

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  19. Perfect allegory... I have a family who expected me to agree with her. When I didn't she would publicly go after me, and then send the oh so endearing private message. (dark humor) I would calmly explain my position, but she'd have none of it. Finally one day I simply wrote the word enough. I wish her no ill, but I am done with the ugliness of racism.

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